Insights Blog

By Martina Hughes & Rod Gordon

Why are Intimate Relationships so Hard? relationship written by rod gordon May 10, 2023

This is a question that comes up for both women and men around relationships. It’s not easy. It’s easy to assume that once we find a partner that the relationship should just work. That if we find the...

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How Do Men Navigate Sexual Desire? men's work written by martina hughes Feb 17, 2022

It can be a challenging path for men to navigate sexual desire. Even in a committed relationship men can feel like there is no space or permission to express their sexual desire.

In a world that has many examples...

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What Holds Men Back From the Freedom of Healthy Masculinity men's work written by rod gordon Feb 13, 2022

AM I TOO FEMININE?

So many questions about men being too feminine, women being too masculine, attraction, sexuality, polarity. What’s a man to do with all that?

Here’s my view on the foundational basics.

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Why Are We Redefining Intimacy? our journey written by martina hughes Dec 28, 2021

I can see how I have used the word 'intimacy' flippantly and as a euphemism for sexual activity.

Now, I realise it’s about so much more…

Finding The Extraordinary

I spent much of my life craving, longing for,...

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What Exactly is Intimacy Coaching? our journey written by martina hughes Dec 15, 2021

I have spent many years of my life wondering whether my desire and longing for deeper intimacy was pure fantasy, or if there was a real possibility of something more?

It has taken me many years of trial and error to...

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What Creates a Thriving Relationship? relationship written by martina hughes Sep 09, 2021

Recently, I shared the below photo on social media with this caption: “This photo is an example of me shining with love and blossoming from the effect of Rod’s presence, holding space and capacity to evoke my...

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Embody Your Full Range Of Feelings & Desires inner healing written by martina hughes Jun 30, 2021

I can still feel the first shrinking, the cringe, knowing that what I was feeling in my body was something I had to hide.

My memory of that time is fuzzy, I can see the unit where we lived, but I can’t remember my...

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The Vulnerability of Being Seen women's work written by martina hughes Jun 23, 2021

It’s common for me to oscillate between wanting to be seen and wanting to hide.

A desire to be noticed in all my beauty, love, sensuality and pleasure.

The incredible vulnerability of being fully seen can also activate...

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Does Expressing Your Feelings Lead To Disagreement? women's work written by martina hughes Jun 22, 2021

How many times have you walked away from a discussion that turned into an argument with your partner thinking “but I was only expressing my feelings…”?

I experienced this many times in the past…...

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Why Criticism Never Works In Relationships women's work written by martina hughes Jun 16, 2021

How many of us women enter a relationship with a man and then try to change him to be who we want him to be?

Arghhh.. I feel myself cringing as I write that. And yes, my hand is raised, I have done that!

Why do we do that?

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Permission to Feel: An Exquisite Gift inner healing written by martina hughes Jun 07, 2021

As I write this, I am feeling delicious openness in my body and spaciousness in my heart.

It feels delightful to rest into this moment and enjoy the tingles and sensations moving through my body.

One week ago today, I was...

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Shame Is Never The Answer parenting teens written by martina hughes May 12, 2021

I feel outraged writing this, I feel so deeply sad and impassioned.

When did it become okay to shame boys at their school assembly? I feel so sorry on behalf of those boys and can only imagine the fury of the parents.

There...

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