When Self-Sufficiency Blocks Love: A Journey into Trust & Intimacy

Are you wondering why men don’t respond to you in romantic ways?
Or maybe you’re in a relationship, but something feels… missing.
You long for more love, more connection, more depth.

That was me.

As a woman who learned to be fiercely independent from a young age, I thought self-sufficiency was the key to happiness. I could take care of myself. I didn’t need anyone - especially not a man.

But beneath the armour, I felt deeply confused and sad.
Why wasn’t love finding me?
Why did romance always feel just out of reach?

I had rich friendships with men. But when it came to romantic connection… something never quite landed.

What I didn’t realise at the time was that the layers of guarding and self-reliance created an energetic wall.
One that kept me protected… and kept love at bay.

It wasn’t until my early 30s that something began to shift.
I softened.
I became more curious - not just about what I wanted from men, but about who they really were.

And in that softening, I began to see something I’d never seen before:

Men are wired to love differently than women.
And when a woman is armoured or emotionally unavailable (even unconsciously), it often confuses or repels them.

As I opened, my relationships began to change.
Friendships with men deepened.
Romantic possibilities unfolded.
And love - real, nourishing, devotional love - found me.

Today, I’m in a beautiful relationship with my husband, Rod.
I feel cherished, supported, and seen in ways I didn’t know were possible.

Not because I “figured men out.”
Not because I became perfect.
But because I let love in - starting with myself.

And this is what I guide women into now.

I support women to live from embodied trust - the kind of trust that makes protection no longer necessary.

When you embody that level of openness and inner safety, men respond.
Not to performance.
Not to perfection.
But to you, as you truly are.

If this resonates with you…

And you’re ready to experience something new with men -

I invite you to join us in Intimacy Oasis this August.
We’re diving into the theme of Trust - how it lives in the body, how it opens the heart, and how it creates the foundation for real intimacy.

Because the love you long for isn’t far away.
It’s waiting…
for you to open the door.